I am such a sucker for weddings. I just love them!
They make me feel so happy, and so in love. Andrew and I attended one a couple weekend’s ago, and this was the first where Andrew was in the wedding party so I attended “solo”. That was definitely weird!!
Regardless, it was a whole lot of fun, but the thing about weddings is that it always gets me thinking about the question:
Do I want to have a wedding to get married?
If you didn’t know, Andrew and I aren’t currently married. We live together, have a child together, have finances together, but he’s never popped the question and we’ve never said ‘I Do’.
There are a lot of pros and cons to having a wedding.
The first real con, obviously, being the cost! I know that you can do weddings on the cheaper end of the spectrum, but as a fully fledged couple who have been living together and raising children, the thought of spending thousands of dollars on one day just makes me cringe. And have a slight panic attack. Other cons for me are the fact that I would be the centre of attention, the stress of planning, dealing with any kind of family/friend drama… there’s probably more but those are off the top of my head.
The pros would be spending time with friends and family, having the memories… something for the scrapbook. I don’t really have many pros, actually.
Honestly, the pros don’t really touch the con of the cost (in my opinion). I don’t think I could do the big wedding. I’ve never really wanted a wedding. I’ve always been perfectly content with the fact that Andrew and I aren’t married. I know that Andrew will most likely ask me one day, but even if he doesn’t I don’t care. His family pushed for it more than mine ever did, and they’ve practically stopped mentioning it now that we have Kaiden.
I’ve always pictured something small.
My ideal would be City Hall to make it official and then throw a huge party to celebrate with everyone we love. I don’t need people to watch me say my vows. I don’t need the pomp and circumstance.
I just want Andrew and my family. I would like the peace of mind that comes with that little piece of paper, but I’m also not too concerned about it either.
What are your thoughts on marriage vs wedding? Do you have a big huge thing picked out, or something a little more low-key?
Although, a nice little ring wouldn’t be amiss at all *wink wink*.
J x
