One look. One missed chance. One split decision. It can change or alter your life forever. Good or bad.
It’s been… what? A year? Since the whole thing that happened with friends. I can’t believe it’s been that long, even if it feels like it’s been longer. I’m always surprised that I never see anyone ever. They all live in close proximity, but I never see them at the mall, or at the park, or anywhere. It’s always slightly weirded me out. Regardless, when I went to the mall on Saturday, imagine my surprise when I saw someone. I was so in my own little world I almost missed him. But I saw him as we were passing on the escalator, a quick hello, and it was gone. I thought about it later, and I wasn’t sure how I felt. There are some that I miss more than others, but in general, I don’t regret my decision. What I possibly regret was how it happened.
Bumping into him definitely left me in a more contemplative mood for the rest of the day (which didn’t effect my partying, whatsoever), and it just started me thinking about the cause and effect of decisions in life. How you can never go back and change a decision. How that probably if I had never fought and broke it off with my friends, I wouldn’t be enjoying the friends that I made and have now. I wouldn’t be going to Japan (hopefully…) this summer, and I wouldn’t keep meeting new people. Cause and effect. No one knows how it’s going to change you, but it does.
My riding coach and I were talking about it after lesson one day, and she was telling me a story about how a girl was starting her driving and was just going to go to the corner store which was around the corner. It was winter, so she was practising her winter driving, and she invited her friend to come along. Her friend said no, she was tired and was just going to go over to her aunt’s house. What made her make that decision? It was a good one, because on the way home the girl got hit by a snowplow that didn’t stop at the stop sign. The blade when straight through the passenger side door. If that girl had gone, she would have had no legs or worse, died. What makes us make those decisions? If that girl had decided to go, that one choice would have changed her life forever. Scary thought. It shows the fragility of human life, how we are all susceptible to different things. What’s to stop us from making the bad choices? Well, obviously nothing but our own conscience. If we don’t listen to that gut instinct, things can go terribly wrong. That I do know all about. *horse accident at school cough*
I’m a big believer in life planning, so that you know roughly where you would like to end up, and it helps make you make the big decisions because You. Have. A. Plan. You can plan for down the road, whatever that road may be. You can budget, plan, make lists, make a storyboard of your life, whatever works for you. (I do all of the above…) I’m not saying that one is rigid and unflexible. You have to be flex in order to live life. But knowing where you want to go is a big step in the decisions of how you’re going to get there.xoxo
Picture care of: Life Unfolds Blog This site is pretty much exactly what I was talking about!!
